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DeveloPassion's Newsletter - Chaos bag
By Sébastien Dubois • Issue #54 • View online
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Welcome to the 54th edition
Another week, another newsletter! I hope that you all had a great one 🤩
Last week I told you about the beginning of a new chapter in my life… This week I’m ready to share the news. My wife and I have decided to separate.
We have shared everything together for the past 17 years and have brought three wonderful kids into this world. Over the years, we’ve been happy and sad, joyful and down. We had great moments together. We also went through really tough times and lost many people we loved along the way (fuck cancer). But we’ve always kept going. We’ve grown together, built a nest for our family. We share a gazillion memories, and I will always cherish those.
Life-changing decisions like this are incredibly hard and painful to take. No matter how confident we are about the reasons and rationale, emotions run so wild that it’s hard to think rationally. It’s really easy to feel bad, think we’re being “bad” persons, think we’re making a mistake, etc. Part of the challenge is to filter through the noise, remain rational, and face reality as it is, no matter how heartbreaking it may be.
We all grow. Our aspirations change, our hopes and dreams evolve, our needs morph, and what was true yesterday might not be tomorrow. It’s all right. There’s no right or wrong way to grow.
Loss aversion makes things even more complicated. We know what we’re about to lose, but not what we’re getting into. The unknown is always scary at first…
In long-term relationships, the sunk-cost fallacy also weighs in the balance. We’ve invested so much in the relationship over the years, that we can easily convince ourselves that, if we invested just a bit more, tried again, things might change and get better. But our time on earth is limited, no matter what. It’s not always worth it to keep trying. Just like it wasn’t worth it for me to keep trying to make my previous startup succeed. Maybe it could have, maybe not.
Life is a complicated mess, and nothing is black and white. Many of us carry childhood wounds and unconsciously keep suffering because of those. Those wounds impact the way we think, the way we act, the way we live. It takes a lifetime to figure out who we really are, who we want to be, what we really want out of life, to discover our limits, and acknowledge those.
As you can imagine, the coming months are going to be a real emotional rollercoaster. Everything that I’m used to is about to change. I’ve actually never lived alone. Old fears of mine about loneliness are bound to resurface. I’ll need to face and fight those.
I believe that keeping at least some stability is important for my sanity, which is why I’ll do my best to keep my journaling habit and my weekly publishing schedule. Although I don’t want to make hard promises at this point. I’ll see how things go.
There are still tons of things that I need to figure out, and my support system is pretty fragile (being a lifelong introvert doesn’t help in such situations 😂). I’ll take things one day at a time…
For now, all that really matters to me is to take care of my kids. I want to make sure they go through this with the least possible amount of pain, help them find a new equilibrium, and move on.
I want to believe in abundance and hope that the future will be full of wonderful surprises. Life goes on. ❤️

The Lab 🧪
I didn’t have time to get back to the lab this week. I was only able to take a look at my weekly stats and review my progress during the past month. Here are my achievements this month:
  • I’ve explored Remix with André and got to discover why people are so excited about it
  • I started working on the Obsidian Starter Kit but put the experiment on hold until I find a new place to live
  • The PKM Library grew a lot (now 240+ tools), but sales slowed down since I’ve increased the price. So I might have identified the “ideal” price
  • The PKM Journal grows rapidly. New articles are pushed each week and the reading time keeps increasing
  • The PKM community on Reddit now has 125+ members; it is now my favorite place to share interesting links about PKM and learning
  • The PKM Daily Twitter account also gains traction
  • 1700 wonderful people are now following me on Twitter. The growth is slow, but I know why: I’m not very active at the moment and lost traction when I switched my attention to the War in Ukraine, but it was the right thing to do
  • I have almost 1K followers on Medium, as well as a number of referred members. This brings in ~$100 per month, which is super cool
Things I've learned so far this month
Some of the things I've learned this month
Some of the things I've learned this month
March has been packed full of learnings so far. Personal development and psychology ended up being the two most important subjects for me this month, but I’ve explored and written about tons of ideas:
  • The value of serendipity in UX design
  • Ideas to engineer serendipity
  • Using reciprocity as a design principle
  • Childhood wounds that we carry and keep suffering from
  • Relationship issues that are caused by the wounds we carry inside and fail to heal
  • Neostoicism
  • The idea that intelligence + experience = wisdom
  • The idea that information + action = knowledge
  • The circus factor
  • The fact that we either seek stability and build within it, or accept the unstable and try to be as agile/adaptable as possible to cope
  • The idea that we create our very own prisons unconsciously
  • Duck syndrome
  • The concept of Veblen goods
  • Why running a default-alive business is key
  • The idea that being rich and anonymous is much more interesting than being richer and famous
  • Épochè (εποχή), the suspension of judgment
  • Ways to create unstoppable advantages
  • Why first-principles thinking can give us the edge we need to succeed
  • The broken windows theory
  • The Boy Scout rule
  • Emotional burnout
  • Community debt and technical debt
  • How to design for emergence
  • The relationship between TAM, SAM and SOM
  • The idea that helping users create daily rituals around a product is a way to make it more useful and important in their lives
  • The relationship between discipline, habits, action, consistency, and results
  • The idea that businesses need to remove as much uncertainty as possible for their customers
  • The concept of the “fifth column”
  • The importance of considering the intention behind actions (i.e., root cause vs “symptoms”)
  • The psychology of procrastination
  • The idea that tasting real freedom can make us unemployable
Recent articles
No new articles this week.
How cool is that?!
Tips of the week
Books corner
Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead
Quotes of the week
  • “Quit looking back. That’s not the direction you’re going”
  • “Fears are like quicksand. The longer you stand in them, the harder it is to move
PKM Links of the week
Who a Zettelkasten Is For (Especially an Analog One)
How I Manage My Life - by Kevin Steel - KS
Tech Links of the week
Remixing React Router | Remix
Hilla Introduction
Spring Tips: Hilla, an amazing new web framework from Vaadin
It’s fine, Rewind: Revert a migration without losing data
If You're Not Using SSH Certificates You're Doing SSH Wrong | Smallstep Blog
Bitsum. Real-time CPU Optimization and Automation
That’s all folks!
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